DEAR ABBY: A co-worker and I became very close. It began as a friendship and led to intimacy a few times. We are both married and do not want to destroy our families, so we decided to stop being intimate and to be only friends, as in the beginning.
The problem is, she seems to be distant, although not rude, and we have a conversation only when I initiate it. When I asked her if she was avoiding me, she said she's been very busy and doesn't have time to talk. I invited her to lunch a couple of times, and she always came up with some excuse not to go.
Abby, I really miss our friendship. Do you think it is possible for us to be friends again, or do you think our friendship is ruined? -- MISSING MY FRIEND
DEAR MISSING: Once friends have become sexually intimate, it is very difficult to ignore the underlying physical attraction and "just be friends."
While it is possible for you and your co-worker to be friends again, it will never be the same as before. You would be wise to accept it and not pressure her. She's doing the right thing, and I, for one, respect her for it.