DEAR ABBY: Our son-in-law -- I'll call him Mack -- has become very antagonistic toward my husband and me recently. At first it was subtle, but it is getting worse. Mack and our daughter, "Gina," live about five hours away, so we do not see them often. It is very puzzling.
We have always adored Mack, but now it seems he does everything he can think of to annoy us. For instance, he now refuses to attend church with us when he and Gina visit our home. Numerous other little things also irritate me, and I'm becoming increasingly unhappy with him.
Frankly, Abby, it has reached the point where I no longer want to be around him or have him in my home.
Should I do anything about this, or let it alone? -- J.A. IN W.VA.
DEAR J.A.: It's important for in-laws to have at least a civil relationship with their children's spouses, so please try to get to the bottom of this change in your son-in-law's behavior.
Communication is usually the key to successful resolution of family problems. Call Mack and ask him to level with you about why he's treating you differently. What he says may hurt, but it can also give you a basis on which to begin mending the rift -- if there is one. If you can work this out, you will all be winners, especially if Mack and Gina have children in the future.