DEAR ABBY: When we have out-of-town guests, what are our responsibilities?
We provide luxurious private accommodations and meals, which is to be expected. But are we supposed to pay for ALL their entertainment -- such as the ballet, symphony, concert and golf fees?
We invited a couple to stay with us, but where do we draw the line? They will be houseguests for three weeks because they will be coming from a great distance, and this was planned nearly a year ago.
If they offer to pay for anything, should we accept their offer? -- NO NAME OR CITY, PLEASE
DEAR NO NAME: The symphony, concert, ballet and golfing? Your guests appear to be accustomed to the best. The financial arrangements for these activities should be discussed with your invited guests before they arrive and before the reservations are made. If you are purchasing tickets in advance, you can easily ask for their seating preferences -- and which credit card number you should give the box office. Also, if the visitors play golf, with or without you, they should pay their own way.
Since they are staying for an extended period, your guests should reciprocate your hospitality by taking you to dinner at least once a week. You should not have to pay for everything, nor should they expect it.