DEAR ABBY: My husband is 37 and I am 29. We have been married almost two years and are starting to look for a place to buy or build a home.
The problem is we have very different ideas about where we want to live. My husband prefers small towns, I prefer large ones. He likes seasons -- I hate the cold, etc.
We have been able to sit down several times to discuss this calmly and rationally, but we remain deadlocked. My husband wants to move back to his hometown to be near his friends and relatives, and refuses to budge even an inch. I am scared to death, because I have visited his hometown three times now and I've hated it every time.
I don't know what to do. Everyone I talk to tells me to stand up for my rights, but how can I when there is no compromise? Abby, please help me. -- STUCK AND SCARED
DEAR STUCK AND SCARED: Since your husband is inflexible, my advice is to rent a place in his hometown for a year. At the end of the year, if you are still unhappy and your husband is still unwilling to move, it may be necessary to re-evaluate your marriage.