DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have been married for 15 years and have a boy, age 12, and a girl, 8. We get along very well except when it comes to disciplining our children.
About three months ago, we were at a mall shopping with our children. My husband became infuriated with our son because he wasn't paying attention to him when he was showing the correct way to fold a pair of pants.
I thought my husband overreacted and told him so. This resulted in his not talking to me for seven weeks.
We are now speaking to each other as if nothing ever happened, but we have not made love since that incident. Abby, we have never been without sex this long.
I feel rejected every night and my self-esteem is very low. I want to talk to him about it, but I'm afraid he will stop talking to me again. I feel as if I am getting mixed signals because we have regular conversations during the day, but at night he goes right to sleep.
What do you think is going on? -- CONFUSED IN PENNSYLVANIA
DEAR CONFUSED: Your husband is still punishing you for the incident that took place in the mall three months ago. He appears to be a very selfish man with an unforgiving nature -- and petty as well -- to punish you in this manner. He is cutting his nose off to spite his face ... well, it's not really his nose, but you get the idea.
When the children are asleep, tell him you would like to discuss this misunderstanding that caused him to clam up, and then to stop making love to you. Assure him that you love him very much and want to resolve the "misunderstanding" before any more time elapses. If necessary, suggest seeing a marriage counselor to resolve this problem. If he refuses, go without him.