DEAR ABBY: I am a 45-year-old, divorced Michigan man who has been communicating over the Internet with a 41-year-old Australian woman for more than two months. Kate (not her real name) stated in our first "meeting" (in an online chat room) that she was unhappy in her marriage. Even though she was married, I thought it would be interesting to talk to someone so far away.
We seemed to really click, exchanged photos, and even talked on the telephone a few times. Our online communication has always been pleasant and satisfying -- nothing sexual, just flirtatious.
We have reached the point where we feel we may have started something we might want to continue. Kate has told her family and friends that she wants to come to America to visit me for a month, and I have agreed to pay half her airfare.
Ordinarily I would not allow myself to get involved with a married woman, but I can't deny I have strong feelings for Kate and want to see her.
Does this sound like destiny or an online infatuation that has gone too far? Kate is getting a passport and may arrive within the month. Have we lost our common sense, or does this sound like two people taking a chance on happiness? -- D.K. IN MICHIGAN
DEAR D.K.: It sounds like asking for trouble to me. Aside from the fact that you are carrying on with a married woman, Kate may not be what you expect. I recently heard about a teen who was communicating online with a female he thought was about his age; when they met, he found out she was a 76-year-old granny!
Before you spring for the tickets, ask yourself if you could ever trust a woman who cheats on her husband.