DEAR ABBY: If my husband knew I was writing to you, he'd swear I was nuts. But I have a problem I have never seen addressed. I read your column every day, and most of the time I agree with you and respect your opinion.
My husband's best friend, "Earl" (not married), has been cornering me alone and keeps saying he has always loved me! I have tried avoiding him, and he tries to avoid me when he's sober. However, we are social drinkers, and since they are such good friends, there are times we can't avoid each other. I have never encouraged Earl and have let him know that I'm very much in love with my husband -- but that doesn't stop him.
Should I tell my husband? I'm afraid if I don't, he'll hear Earl one day and think there's something going on. They have been friends for years, and I'm afraid if I tell, their friendship will be hurt, and I'd never do anything to hurt either one of them.
Your thoughts on this, please. -- IN A BIND IN BATON ROUGE
DEAR IN A BIND: You are much too kindhearted. If the shoe were on the other food, and your best friend began hitting on your husband every time she got a snoot full, wouldn't you want to know?
Corner Earl in the cold, sober light of day and tell him that his unwelcome advances have made you uncomfortable for the last time and if it happens again, you WILL tell your husband. And if you're put on the spot again -- do it.