DEAR ABBY: I am desperate, so I will tell you my problem from the beginning. I am a 35-year-old mother of three. I divorced my husband twice for the same reason. Both times I caught him with another woman. (The same woman, and she was my best friend.)
Now I have a guy I think the world of. I love him like I have never loved anybody in my entire life. I can't stand being away from him. We have everything in common. He keeps telling me how much he loves me, and I know he isn't lying. He treats me like a queen. There is only one problem. He's living with another woman. He says he doesn't love her, and I believe him. He's too kind and decent to tell her he's in love with another woman. He says if she knew, she might even kill herself.
He doesn't want me dating anyone else, but he goes home to her every night and I'm alone.
I'm tired of hiding, but I'm afraid if I force him to make a choice, it won't be me. What should I do? -- A WOMAN IN LOVE
DEAR WOMAN: Brace yourself for some unpleasant news. The guy you are in love with has already made his choice, and it's not you.
Quit being available whenever he wants you. And quit hiding. The man is living with another woman, and he's cheating on HER to be with you. Please wise up and smell the skunk cabbage. This man is not worthy of your love.