DEAR ABBY: I am a 62-year-old widow, just retired from my teaching job. I am seeing a 69-year-old widower. At first I felt fortunate to have found someone so kind, gentle and honest. He talks of marriage, but there is always something to delay it. First he needed foot surgery, then he had a respiratory problem, then heart problems. He claims he wants to marry me, but there always seems to be something standing in the way.
Mind you, I am not pressuring him. As a matter of fact, I'm having second thoughts about it myself. Of course, we'd have a prenuptial agreement, but why should I marry him to be his nurse in his old age? He's a lousy lover, and he as much as told me he doesn't care for sex. He's financially secure, but so am I. He has a fine home, but so have I.
We've gone together for two years and have had some lovely trips. I would appreciate your opinion, Abby. -- MUTUALLY COMPATIBLE
DEAR COMPATIBLE: Why marry? Why don't you two compatible people just shake hands and continue to be close friends?