DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My grandparents started their family when they were really young, so now they are divorced since last fall they are still young enough to want to find someone new.

My grandfather has been seeing a woman he used to work with, but my grandma has not found anyone, so my cousin and I got her a premium OurTime account. We worked with her to find someone to meet up with, and although she said he seemed like a nice man, the whole experience just was not for her, and she has not gone on a second date either with the first match or anyone else, and told us she did not think the whole dating app thing is for her.

Both my cousin and I have had really good experiences with dating apps, including my cousin meeting her fiancé through one, so we are having a hard time understanding why our grandma will not give it another shot. We both think she has been lonely since the divorce, even though they did not seem very happy the last few years they were married, so we would think she would like the chance to meet new people.

How hard do we push to see if we can’t get grandma to give online matchmaking another shot? It is nice to see that our grandfather seems to have found someone, and we want the same for our grandma. --- WANT GRANDMA TO BE HAPPY TOO

DEAR WANT GRANDMA TO BE HAPPY TOO: Just because your grandmother’s online dating experience wasn’t as successful as some others with which you’re familiar, it doesn’t mean she’s given up on the idea of meeting someone new on her own terms, or like in your grandfather’s case, reconnecting with an old friend or acquaintance.

She tried it your way, now I think you ought to just let her follow her own path, which for your grandmother may mean cultivating other interests and social connections outside of romantic ones, at least for the time being.

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: When I was a senior in high school, my best friend committed suicide. I knew he was hurting, and myself and several of his other friends tried to help him. We all even talked to his mom, and she said she knew he was in trouble and was trying to get him to take some therapy, but it was a struggle.

That was three years ago and I am still angry with him for ending his own life and angry with myself because I didn’t stop him from doing it. So many people cared deeply for him. His mother just about lost her mind after he died, and his two brothers have never been the same and ended up in intense therapy themselves.

I want to forgive him, but I just can’t bring myself to do that even after all this time.

I don’t have very good insurance coverage, and I think I may need therapy for myself, but I am also afraid it will just make everything too fresh for me again. Does it make sense to you after three years to still need help? --- STILL MAD AT HIM

DEAR STILL MAD AT HIM: Grief doesn’t have an expiration date. Nor is there a one-size-fits-all way to deal with it. Even though your grief isn’t new, it’s still fresh enough to give you pain, and you owe it to yourself to find ways to heal and move on.

I agree you would likely benefit from therapy. Although you don’t have very good behavioral health insurance coverage, you might still be able to find less expensive or no-cost options outside of individual therapy. Grief counseling groups through community service providers such as churches, hospices, hospitals, or mental health clinics could be good places to start. At the very least, some of them may be able to point you in the direction of more affordable, competent mental health resources.

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: I am very lucky to be in a marriage in which we support each other 100 percent in everything we do.

For the first time, though, I feel like we are heading for a conflict in that now that I am 35 I want to start trying for a family, and my husband still wants to continue trying to launch his stand-up comedy career, which he has been working on for the last seven years.

I am getting from him that he isn’t feeling as pressured by time as I am, and whenever I try to tell him he may need to get a job to bring in some money so if I do get pregnant and need to take some time off before and after the baby is born, we can still pay our bills and all that. Right now he works parttime at a coffee shop, so he has the flexibility to work on his routines and do gigs when he books into them.

I don’t want to pressure him a whole lot, but I need him to understand we have to have a back-up plan to me being the main money-maker if we are going to have a family. We talk about this sometimes, and he keeps reminding me that his career as a comedian is as important to him as mine is in real estate. I know that, so am I being selfish in asking him to be more of a bread-winner and less of an artist? He tells me he keeps hearing it takes about 10 years to get a stand-up career really going, so that means I’d be nearly 40 if we wait to start trying for a baby by then. --- DON’T WANT TO CLIP HIS WINGS

DEAR DON’T WANT TO CLIP HIS WINGS: I’m not sure your partnership is quite as equal as you seem to think it is. One indication is that you’re meeting with resistance from your husband about his potentially stepping up to do more to support your family financially if you have a baby. That’s far from an unreasonable request.

Given the current job market, he shouldn’t have too much trouble either picking up more hours at the coffee shop or finding something else to supplement his earnings if need be. You’re not asking him to give up his dreams, just to pick up some of the breadwinning responsibilities so you can follow your own dreams of having a family.