DEAR READERS: About this time last year a column ran responding to a query from grandchildren about what to get their ailing grandparent for the holidays.
Many readers offered wonderful, thoughtful, and inspired suggestions adding to the ones provided in my response. The ideas they presented were ones they had seen succeed for someone in their lives.
One reader sent me an email with the solution she and her family came up with for a relative living alone, which also works for someone in a care facility, and which struck me as a good one to share. Depending on the loved one’s situation, the distribution of the daily gifts may rely on the help of the care facility’s staff, but the reader who submitted the gift plan found it to be a highly workable one.
Thanks to JT and her family for sharing this suggestion, and I ask that as you did last year, please feel free to also share some of your own gift success stories. Like many of my readers, I too have a dear family member in a care facility, and know firsthand the challenge of figuring out what’s just right to make her holidays brighter.
DEAR ASK SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: Make a 12-days basket filled with 12 wrapped gifts, numbered 1-12. We usually start 12 days before Christmas, but you can start on Christmas Day or anytime during the holidays.
Day one can be a small Christmas decoration to go in their room or on their door. Other ideas include favorite snack items if there are no diet-restrictions, footie-socks with non-slip grips, a new family photo, a warm throw, etc. Also, if your family is local, arrange for a different person to visit every day — what a treat to look forward to, even if the visits are short in duration.