DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: After I received the save-the-date card from my niece for her wedding, I immediately called my sister, her mom, and asked if this was for real. My sister confirmed that the couple was absolutely serious about their Star Wars wedding. She didn’t sound thrilled about it, but said this is what her daughter wanted, as does the groom. They both are big-time into Star Wars, and their biggest argument about the wedding so far has been which of the trilogies they want to represent at the wedding.
I can’t believe that two level-headed young adults (at least I thought they were) would do something like this. My sister told me the couple even wants the parents and the officiant in full costume, and the bride even found a hairdresser who specializes in the “Star Wars look.” She also told me that the invitations will read, “Dress Code: Star Wars preferred, but not required.” And that’s a good thing, because no way am I going to try and look like Princess Leia from ANY of the movies.
I know this is what the couple wants, but doesn’t it seem a bit extreme, not to mention something to put pressure and extra expense on the guests? My husband and I have absolutely no intention of getting dressed up like some movie character. --- NOT DOING IT
DEAR NOT DOING IT: I believe that a couple’s entitled to make their day their way, with the understanding it might not work for everyone. But I also get your argument that guests shouldn’t have to face a lot of pressure or expense if they accept an invitation to attend the wedding. As odd as it may seem to you, though, compared to some weddings I’ve heard about, your niece’s is not nearly as big an ask as the couples who opt for exotic destination or holiday weddings, for instance.
Your niece and future nephew-in-law are ultimately leaving it to their guests whether they choose to come in costume or not. This suggests to me that the bride and groom don’t intend to impose their fandom on everyone taking part in their festivities. Rather, they’re simply following their own dream.