DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: When I recently went to visit my aunt’s and uncle’s graves during a home visit, I saw a family a few rows down having a full-out picnic around a gravesite.
Honestly, it gave me the creeps, but it seemed like business as usual for the people at the picnic.
Doesn’t it seem disrespectful and more than a little weird to have a picnic party in a graveyard? --- CREEPED OUT
DEAR CREEPED OUT: Cemetery picnics are neither as strange nor unusual as you might think. Far from being creepy or disrespectful, graveside meals are a long-recognized and accepted way for the bereaved to honor and remember those they’ve lost.
At one time it was a not at all uncommon practice here in the U.S. for family and friends to make a meal part of their visit to the departed, and it remains an ongoing tradition in many cultures. Take for example El Día de los Muertos, observed throughout much of the world, wherein graveside meals are a centerpiece of the celebrations.