DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My new girlfriend is a few years younger than me, and even though she has been in at least two serious relationships, which both ended badly, she keeps telling me she is not ready to have sex yet, at least until we have been together for six months or more. She says she has to be sure I am in it for the long haul, because she has been burned before, and is convinced sex is as much a complication as it is a natural next step.
So far we have found enough things in common to do, so the physical part has seemed less important. I am beginning to feel, though, that she may never be ready to be with me, and if not, what is the point of continuing in what in all other ways is a romantic relationship? --- STILL WAITING
DEAR STILL WAITING: Given that your girlfriend’s had some rough times in her earlier love life, I can understand her desire to want to be confident and comfortable in your relationship before moving things to the next level.
The question you seem to be asking is whether or not both she and what you have together are worth a wait. The answer is all on you, as I see it.
Right now, by continuing to pursue common interests outside the bedroom, you’re potentially building a strong foundation for a long-term relationship. If you see her as someone you could get serious about, then patience is your best option. If not, then give her a break and move on.