DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: I hooked up with one of my coworkers a few weeks ago. Since then we started spending more time together, and plan to continue seeing each other.
Although there is technically a company no dating policy, other people I know of have had relationships with one another within our office. So far I have not seen it enforced.
I share a workspace with an older gossipy woman, who thinks she is cute hinting at the thing I have with our coworker. I think the no enforcing the no dating policy has happened so far because people were not advertising what was going on between them. No PDAs and the such at work.
Now I am afraid my office mate will continue her teasing of me around the wrong people, and both my now boyfriend and I will either get fired or at least be forced to go underground, and that would only make us more worried about getting “caught.”
What can we do to keep my office mate from blabbing? Things are going well with my new relationship and I want to keep it that way. --- WORK WITH A BIGMOUTH
DEAR WORK WITH A BIGMOUTH: There are often good reasons for companies having no dating rules on the books, usually to help protect employees from different levels from exploitation and harassment. It may be that your company has turned a blind eye to relationships between staff members on the same or similar levels, where no one can use the relationship as leverage for advancement or harm, especially should things go sour.
It could be worth your being politely honest with your office mate and letting her know you and your boyfriend want to keep your private lives private. People love to gossip, and a romance is big time fodder. Even though word of your relationship might still get around, if your office mate feels like she’s part of the secret, she may have more of a stake in keeping it.