DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My fiancé graduated from medical school last spring, and already his family keeps calling him to get free medical advice, and some of them have even asked for him to write prescriptions for them so they don’t have to go to their regular doctors.
One of the reasons I love my future husband is that he is such a patient, kind, generous man. For obvious ethical and legal reasons, he politely refuses to write any scripts for non-patients, but it drives me nuts that people expect him to provide medical advice for free for the rest of his life. It makes me feel like he’s being used, and although he tells me he’s fine with it, I’m not.
How do I tell the freeloaders to go pay their own doctor for a change? --- ENGAGED TO A GOOD DOCTOR
DEAR ENGAGED TO A GOOD DOCTOR: There’s nothing new in family members with a profession being tapped for free advice. It’s something you’re going to have to get used to, like it or not, and it isn’t your place to discourage the advice-seekers. It’s your future husband’s call.
Bear in mind that his immediate family may have supported your fiancé materially and emotionally during his pursuit of his MD. Also, they might be more comfortable going to someone they feel they can trust to answer questions or provide translations of medical terms that may confuse or alarm them. It’s better than surfing the web and finding a lot of misinformation.