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Parents of Newly Out Man Try Too Hard

Ask Someone Else's Mom by by Susan Writer
by Susan Writer
Ask Someone Else's Mom | October 22nd, 2020

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: When I came out last year, it actually seemed to genuinely surprise my dad and stepmother, although my mother told me she’d figured it out years ago. All my parents have been kind and supportive, but my dad and stepmother are going overboard to let me know just how cool they are with me and my boyfriend. It’s gotten kind of embarrassing, and I know they don’t mean to be causing me any discomfort. They just aren’t sure how to let me know they’re okay with it.

Without hurting their feelings or embarrassing them, how do I let them know their overboard support is a problem? --- MY FOLKS ARE TOO ENTHUSIASTIC

DEAR MY FOLKS ARE TOO ENTHUSIASTIC: It sounds like your father and stepmother may still be processing a new situation that’s old news to you. I’d say give them a little time to figure out that you’re who you’ve always been, and hopefully things will be less strained for them.

In the meantime, and perhaps as a way to get things back on a less stressful footing, you might want to gently, but directly level with them, expressing how grateful you are that they’re so accepting and supportive, but that you really don’t want to be treated any differently by them than how they’ve always treated you.

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Grandfather Tires of Picking Up After Grandkids

Ask Someone Else's Mom by by Susan Writer
by Susan Writer
Ask Someone Else's Mom | October 20th, 2020

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: I always get to be the grumpy grandpa, but it drives me nuts that my oldest grandkids never pick up after themselves when they visit. They are 10 and 13, and that seems plenty old enough to know better. My wife, who is their step-grandma and always feeling like she needs to win points, just goes along with providing maid service.

Whenever I say something, the boys tell me they don’t have to do such-and-such at home. I know their parents well enough to know this is only, at best, half true. My daughter-in-law assigns them jobs and if they want their allowance, they have to do what they are assigned to do.

So, if they can do it at their house, why not at mine? --- FORCED TO BE GRUMPY

DEAR FORCED TO BE GRUMPY: I can understand why your wife wants to score points with your grandsons, but it seems that if you and she don’t present a united front around the boys, they’ll continue to get away with not being responsible for their own messes.

My advice is to sit the kids down as soon as they arrive for their next visit and lay out your house rules. You wife should definitely be there, and if possible, so should at least one of your grandkids’ parents. Putting everyone publicly on the same page, at least to start with, might help get the point across that there’s absolutely no maid service at Grandpa’s.

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Fear Prevents Daughter from Getting Driver's License

Ask Someone Else's Mom by by Susan Writer
by Susan Writer
Ask Someone Else's Mom | October 16th, 2020

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: Our daughter is almost 21 years old and she still does not have her driver’s license. A friend of hers was in a wreck when they were teenagers around the time both girls had just begun learning to drive. Although, thank God, no one was seriously hurt in the accident, it was enough to frighten our daughter out of wanting to learn to drive then, and it seems to have given her time to continue growing that fear until now. Fortunately, we live near public transportation, but it is only enough to get her to work and back. For anything else, she has to rely on friends, family, and Uber to get her anywhere.

Not only do we have a willingness to help her learn to drive, but we even have a car that we can put at her disposal and that she could easily afford the insurance and maintenance on for the amount she would use it.

What can we do to convince our daughter that getting her license ultimately gives her independence? --- OUR DAUGHTER WON’T DRIVE

DEAR OUR DAUGHTER WON’T DRIVE: Driving is one of those things that someone has to be truly ready to take on. I saw it with our own kids, all of whom progressed toward their license in their own way, on their own timetable.

I think the best you can do for now is to continue encouraging your daughter, but also let her take the time she needs to feel safe and be more comfortable behind the wheel.

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