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Mom Shows Signs of Jealousy Over New Woman in Son's Life

Ask Someone Else's Mom by by Susan Writer
by Susan Writer
Ask Someone Else's Mom | September 29th, 2020

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: Ever since I started seeing my new girlfriend my mom’s been acting weird toward me and her. At first, she said my girlfriend is “trashy” because she has a “trashy” name. I don’t even know what that means, and she can’t or won’t explain it. She has never been like this with the other women I’ve been with.

Everything my girlfriend does is wrong, but all she’s tried to do is make my mother like her, even a little bit. That only makes my mother even worse, saying my girlfriend is just sucking up to her to impress me.

None of this could be further from the truth. My girlfriend comes from a strict, very conservative family, the kind my mother would usually call a “good family”. She has a better job than I do, and is kind, respectful, and works hard.

What can I do to convince my mother she’s all wrong here? --- CAN’T PLEASE MY MOTHER

DEAR CAN’T PLEASE MY MOTHER: Maybe your mother is threatened by the new woman in your life because, unlike before, she sees something in this new relationship that’s got her thinking her little boy’s found a keeper, and Mom may not be ready to give you up just yet.

My advice would be to limit the time your mother and girlfriend are around each other for now. That way you can focus on your new relationship and what direction it’s taking. If things get serious enough with the two of you, you can worry about what’s next with Mom. Perhaps by then, she’ll at least be used to your girlfriend, if not completely accepting of her.

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Divorced Daughter's Parents Want to Lend a Hand to Help with Social Life

Ask Someone Else's Mom by by Susan Writer
by Susan Writer
Ask Someone Else's Mom | September 25th, 2020

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: Our daughter went through a messy divorce nearly two years ago now. She just started dating again, and my husband and I worry about how she’ll manage a dating life with her two young children in the house. We know our daughter is level-headed and not the kind of young woman to sleep around, but I can’t imagine how you can even start a serious relationship while the kids are always in the house.

What we have talked about is offering to take the kids every other weekend, like her ex would be doing, but he moved out of state and only sees our grandchildren for a couple of weeks in the summer and on alternating holidays.

Do you think we would be overstepping our boundaries by making the offer, or would it be kind of weird? --- DON’T WANT TO BUTT IN

DEAR DON’T WANT TO BUTT IN: I don’t consider it at all strange for parents to step in and help a single mother get her social life back on track.

Even if she doesn’t use her weekends off to date, I would imagine she might greatly appreciate a bit of a break.

Speak to your daughter. You may find she’ll jump at the offer, or that she may counter it with a request for help of another kind that you may not be aware of her needing. Even if her response is a “thanks, but no thanks,” you’ll have planted the seed and given her a solid offer of support.

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COVID-Caused Wedding Cancellation Makes LW Wonder About Gift

Ask Someone Else's Mom by by Susan Writer
by Susan Writer
Ask Someone Else's Mom | September 24th, 2020

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My second cousin was supposed to get married with a big church wedding and reception this month. Both my mother and I were sent save the date cards, so we knew we would be invited to the wedding. We went ahead and shared the cost of one of the more expensive items in the couple’s registry, figuring this way we could more easily afford something nicer together that would have been a stretch for us separately.

The big, formal wedding was cancelled, and the couple was married in a private, backyard ceremony, with just the immediate family attending. Neither my mother nor I are particularly close to the bride, and we understand the realities of the times, but we wondered if the bride and groom should return the wedding gifts they received from people not at the wedding. --- NEVER GOT TO THE WEDDING

DEAR NEVER GOT TO THE WEDDING: As I see it, the gift is for the couple, not payment for a seat at the wedding.

Think of it as a similar situation to a guest having to cancel their attendance at the last minute. Would you expect that guest to request the bride and groom to return the gift they already may have sent?

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