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Mom Not Happy About Daughter's Decision to Register as an Organ Donor

Ask Someone Else's Mom by by Susan Writer
by Susan Writer
Ask Someone Else's Mom | September 22nd, 2020

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: I’m the last kid in the family to get their driver’s license. I’m also the only one who opted to be identified as an organ donor, and that is flipping my mother out. She thinks that if anything happens to me, the doctors won’t try to save me so they can get my organs, and all sorts of strange things like that.

I’m over 18 and entitled to register my desire to be a donor. What is my mother’s problem? --- PROUD TO DO MY PART

DEAR PROUD TO DO MY PART: I think you’re doing a fine thing by registering as an organ donor.

My take on your mom’s reaction is that like all of us, we don’t like to think about bad things happening to anyone we love. Your choice placed the reality of your mortality in front of your mom, and I can see how that might flip her out some, especially given what’s been happening these past few months.

Be patient with her. In time, she may get used to the idea, or at least get better at dealing with it.

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Fellow Grandmother Can't Take Any More Perfect Grandchild News

Ask Someone Else's Mom by by Susan Writer
by Susan Writer
Ask Someone Else's Mom | September 18th, 2020

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My friend, “Annie”, and I have grandchildren who were born within a few weeks of each other. That’s happened twice now, and while it can be fun comparing notes and boasts, Annie has started rubbing me the wrong way with her constant bragging about what her grandkids are doing, usually sooner or better than my grandkids.

I’ve known Annie since we were both young mothers, and she wasn’t like this with her own kids. What evil gene has been activated since she became a grandmother? --- JUST AS PROUD GRANDMA

DEAR JUST AS PROUD GRANDMA: Maybe when you and Annie were raising your own children, she was too busy to find time to dote and brag — or you were too busy to notice if she did.

The next time you find yourselves on the topic of the grandkids, perhaps you should just let her get the incredibleness of her little darlings out of her system. Once she’s had her say, you can update her on what’s happening with your own grandkids, not as a competition, but as some friendly chatting. If she tries to top you at that point, a quick change of subject should be in order.

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Bakery's Practices Disturb Employee

Ask Someone Else's Mom by by Susan Writer
by Susan Writer
Ask Someone Else's Mom | September 17th, 2020

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: I work part-time in a mom and pop bakery where my family has always gotten our special baked goods. I am not saying they do anything all that different than most of us do in our own kitchens, but when you are cooking for the public, I guess I don’t expect a place to cut so many corners. They use cheap ingredients to stretch the expensive ones. Don’t always pay attention to the “best by” dates. And one time I came in to find the owner continuing to knead some dough that I saw him pick up from the floor.

They pass their health inspections regularly, so I am guessing they are not doing anything illegal, but I find it kind of disgusting that customers, like my family, are not getting either what they are paying for or the most hygienic products.

I haven’t said anything yet to my parents or family friends, since this is just a temporary job until I can get my full-time hours back. But should I tell them what goes on there? --- YUCK

DEAR YUCK: While it may not seem very savory, I’m not sure what you’re seeing is all that different from what goes on in many food service environments.

Except for the dough going from the floor to the counter, if the bakery complies with health code regulations and routinely passes health inspections, there is probably not much to worry your family or friends with. If word gets around that there’s something shady going on, whether that’s the case or not, the bakery’s business will undoubtedly suffer.

However, if you truly believe any of the bakery’s practices are dangerous to their customers, then you have cause not only to let your family know, but also to report the issue to the proper authorities — in which case, be prepared to be back on the job market.

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