DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My friend, “Annie”, and I have grandchildren who were born within a few weeks of each other. That’s happened twice now, and while it can be fun comparing notes and boasts, Annie has started rubbing me the wrong way with her constant bragging about what her grandkids are doing, usually sooner or better than my grandkids.
I’ve known Annie since we were both young mothers, and she wasn’t like this with her own kids. What evil gene has been activated since she became a grandmother? --- JUST AS PROUD GRANDMA
DEAR JUST AS PROUD GRANDMA: Maybe when you and Annie were raising your own children, she was too busy to find time to dote and brag — or you were too busy to notice if she did.
The next time you find yourselves on the topic of the grandkids, perhaps you should just let her get the incredibleness of her little darlings out of her system. Once she’s had her say, you can update her on what’s happening with your own grandkids, not as a competition, but as some friendly chatting. If she tries to top you at that point, a quick change of subject should be in order.