DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: So, I have a situation with my husband. 

His two best friends are getting married. I mostly get along OK with the groom, not so much with the bride. I also really dislike going to weddings. 

The thing is, my husband wants me to go and has gotten upset with me for asking him if it’s really necessary.

Apparently, it would cause tension between him and his friends if I don’t attend.

I just didn’t want to have to sit through a wedding, especially since he’s going to be participating as best man, so I’d practically be alone for the whole affair.

What do you think? --- WANTING TO SIT THIS ONE OUT

DEAR WANTING TO SIT THIS ONE OUT: I get your reluctance to attend the wedding essentially on your own, since your husband will be wrapped up in his job as best man. However, this is something important to him, and sounds like it falls under that umbrella of married life means compromising sometimes.

If possible, you might want to find out if your husband will be expected to remain with the wedding party throughout the reception, sitting at a head table, for instance. Since the current trend in weddings is a sweetheart table rather than a dais, then he should be able to be with you after the ceremony. If not, perhaps you could see if you would be allowed a plus one so that you’d have someone to keep you company, and hopefully make the wedding more enjoyable for you.

To all my readers and those they love, best wishes for a Happy Valentine’s Day!

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My daughter’s husband is one of those people who never sits down. That’s not the problem, even though our daughter is the most laid-back 27-year-old you can imagine.

What gets me is that for all the projects he starts, my SIL never gets around to finishing anything. He bounces from one project to another, and although I’m not one for labels, I sometimes worry he’s manic or hyperactive, or both.

I also worry that his habits will lead to a home that’s full of unfinished “improvements”, and a life for my daughter that’s constantly unsettled.

Do I say something to my daughter, or just keep my lips zipped? --- TO ZIP OR NOT TO ZIP

DEAR TO ZIP OR NOT TO ZIP: Since you have at least one grown child, this can’t be the first time you’ve faced this occupational hazard of parenthood.

While I get your concern and frustration, if your son-in-law’s never-ending-never-finishing habits don’t bother your daughter, and aren’t presenting any health or safety risks, I fall on the “keep it zipped” side of your quandary.

This is something your daughter and her husband have to deal with for themselves, if they even see it as an issue to be dealt with.

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My boyfriend and I broke up just before Christmas. It was a crappy move on his part, especially since I was completely blindsided.

It’s only been a few weeks, but I already have friends trying to fix me up with someone new. One of them has a guy who is up for a Valentine’s Day blind date. I don’t know this guy at all, and while I’ve seen pictures of him and he looks fine and is supposed to be a really good guy, I just don’t know if I’m ready to be back out there. But I also hate the idea of being alone on Valentine’s Day for the first time for a while.

Do you think I should take up my friend’s match-up offer? --- NOT SURE IF I’M READY YET

DEAR NOT SURE IF I’M READY YET: Depending on how long and how involved your last relationship was, I can see how it would be difficult to jump back into dating after such a relatively short period of time. I also think there’s nothing wrong with putting your toe in the water, if for no other reason than to see if you really are ready to get out there again.

If you can make it absolutely clear that this Valentine’s Day blind date comes with no strings attached, you might find you enjoy having a nice evening out. It’s an approach that takes some of the pressure off your date as well.