DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: Every time my mother-in-law comes for a visit, she brings her own bedding and towels. Honestly, we have plenty of each, and they’re completely clean and fresh. She says she figures it’s less work for me, but I think it’s for other reasons, none of which make me feel like she’s got much confidence in me and my housekeeping abilities.
I still continue to put out everything she might need, but should I bother? --- BUMMED BY BEDDING
DEAR BUMMED BY BEDDING: I vote for continuing to be a good hostess and put out everything you believe would add to her comfort. Whatever her motives for BYOing, don’t take it personally. Some people are just more at ease with familiar items with them when they travel, even to relatives’ homes.