DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My fiancé and I are getting married in late November and his brother and old buddies have already started planning the bachelor party.

My fiancé is far from wild, but his brother and some of the other guys are. I don’t want to be the jealous, crazy bride, but how do I let my fiancé know I’m not thrilled with the talk of wild times ahead? --- NERVOUS BRIDE

DEAR NERVOUS BRIDE: You shouldn’t feel weird about letting your fiancé know what’s on your mind. If you’re marrying the man, you hopefully have already established a basis of trust.

For safety’s sake, though, you might want to make sure that at least one of the guys attending the party is more on the responsible side, especially since you feel the planners aren’t.

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: I work in a cubicle centered between two others. We do customer service, so everyone is on the phone most of the day. We do have downtime, though, which I like to use to get caught-up with reports, and the woman in the cubicle on the right spends it yakking with her friends, and she isn’t exactly discreet about it, especially when our boss isn’t around. She’s what my mom calls a “cackler,” and when she gets going, it drives me up the cubicle.

She’s not at all a bad person. In fact, she’s pretty nice and was one of the people who trained me. How do I get some peace and quiet without offending her? --- NEEDS SOME QUIET TIME

DEAR NEEDS SOME QUIET TIME: Why do you think bringing up her decibel level will offend her? She may be unaware of how loud she gets, and a simple conversation with her could be all that’s needed. Just be sure to choose your words carefully, perhaps letting her know her private business is getting heard by the entire office.

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: This will sound a little nuts, but my dad is upset that I’m dating a guy from Germany. I was raised Jewish, and although we’re not overly observant, my father can’t forgive what the Germans did to his parents and grandparents.

My boyfriend had nothing to do with what happened way before most of the people alive today were even born. Why doesn’t my dad see that? --- WHY WON’T HE LET GO?

DEAR WHY WON’T HE LET GO?: Your dad probably grew up hearing first- and second-hand stories of how life was for his close ancestors. Even if he fully intellectually understands that your boyfriend is far separated from his country’s past, your dad’s heart has been shaped by painful memories.

Hopefully in time he’ll give your boyfriend a chance, but be patient and help your boyfriend understand it’s likely not anything personal.