DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: While I’m finishing my master’s program, my fiancé and I have been doing the long-distance thing. He works about 100 miles from my school, in the town I’m going to move to once I graduate this spring.
We try to spend every other weekend together, and for all of last semester, he kept asking me to do the drive down to his place, which isn’t so bad if I don’t have a lot of work to do or a big exam coming up the day after I get back. He says it’s easier for me to make the trip because I get out of class earlier than he gets out of work, but I’m beginning to feel stressed about the time I’m losing when I could be studying, not driving.
Don’t you think he needs to make more of an effort in making the trip to me? --- ONE-WAY ROAD WARRIOR
DEAR ONE-WAY ROAD WARRIOR: Yes, I agree you two should be splitting the travelling equally. If he’s not game for putting in his fair share of driving, the simplest solution is that you spread out your visits more, especially if a designated visit weekend falls during a busy time for you.
You’re in the homestretch for earning your degree, and that’s where your focus needs to be. Hopefully your future husband will recognize this and support you in doing what you need to do to succeed. If not, you guys have some real issues to work out before you get married.