DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: It wouldn’t be the first time, but I just found out my father is cheating on my mom again, and I know she knows, but doesn’t want to say anything to me because she also knows I’ll beat the s___t out of him. The last time he did this I was just a kid and all I knew was that my dad was acting weird and my mom was really sad. How long do I play dumb and let him walk all over her? --- PROTECTIVE SON
DEAR PROTECTIVE SON: The bigger question is how long does your mom put up with your dad’s actions?
Crappy as the situation is, this is between your parents, and hard as it is for you to stand by, that’s what you need to do for your mom’s sake. It may make you feel better to take it out of your dad’s hide, but a fight between her husband and son isn’t going to make things any better for your mother.
Let her know you’re there for her, both for now and throughout whatever comes next.