DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: Whenever my mom comes to visit my apartment, she makes jokes about my being Felix to my roommate’s Oscar. The problem is, I no longer find the joke funny. My roommate is a sweetheart, but he just can’t keep his mess to himself. This is beyond ignoring all the coasters I put out and hints I drop about cleaning up after himself. It’s getting Board of Health time, you know what I mean? What do I do to wake this boy up? --- OK, SO I AM A FELIX
DEAR OK: It’s time you lay down the law. Either he cleans up after himself or he’s got to get someone in to do his share of the housework. If you start taking care of his messes, you’ll only enable him and possibly begin to resent him ─ not to mention he needs to be held responsible for his part in keeping your home livable for you both.