DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: I am going to come off as a real b—ch, but I really don’t want my sister, who has been in and out of drug rehab for at least the last three years, around my kids. Even though they’re still young, we just never know how my sister is going to be when she drops by, or who she’ll be bringing along for the ride. I love my sister very much, but I love my kids too. Am I right to ban her? --- SISTER OF AN ADDICT
DEAR SISTER OF AN ADDICT: Your first and most important responsibilities lie with taking care of your own family. If you’re not comfortable having your sister around your young children, then you’re absolutely right to keep them apart, at least until they’re of an age to understand more about what their aunt is dealing with. That doesn’t mean you can’t offer your love and support to your sister in other ways.
Instead of having her come to the house, why don’t you propose getting together for an adults-only meal or other kind of outing you might both enjoy? If it works the first time, maybe make it a regular event so that you two can keep the lines of communication and support open.