DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: One of my closest friends passed away nearly two years ago. She was, without a doubt, one of the most incredible women I have been blessed to know. I heard from another friend that my deceased friend’s husband has begun dating again and I am having trouble with the whole thing, even though I understand he is young and has small children to think about. Am I being unreasonable in feeling a kind of resentment about his moving on? --- REMEMBERING A FRIEND
DEAR REMEMBERING: I think you’re feeling an admirable loyalty towards the memory of your lost friend. However, I also think you need to work on eliminating your resentment. It’s hard to see someone you cared for in danger of being replaced. But you also have to consider the natural need and absolute right of a young widower and his young family to move on.
It may not be all that easy for him to start again with someone new, but if it’s what he’s ready to do, he could probably use some support from his friends, especially those who were close to his former wife.