DEAR NATALIE: My husband and his co-worker recently began carpooling into work together to save on gas and parking fare because we live in the same city neighborhood. I also drive with my husband to my job two to three days a week. Although this sounds like a good plan, my husband's co-worker tends to be very tardy in the morning, sometimes making us wait up to 10-15 minutes for him outside his house. We always give him a 10-minute warning before leaving our house, even though it is the same time every day. I was even late for work a few times because of his tardiness. Initially, they were supposed to take turns driving; however, because of how late my husband's co-worker is, my husband now always drives. Please advise on how to address this issue without being confrontational. -- Tired of Being Tardy

DEAR TIRED OF BEING TARDY: Your husband's friend is just being inconsiderate. I wouldn't wait 10-15 minutes for him to find his way to his front door. Let him know you're coming, and if he isn't waiting when you arrive, give him a few minutes and then leave. Sound harsh? Well, it's pretty rude that he has kept you waiting over and over again, to the point of making you late for work. Someone needs a reminder that he isn't the only person in the universe. If he gets upset that you left without him, too bad. If he asks your husband why you left, he can explain that neither of you can afford to be late for work, and if the carpooling situation doesn't work for him, that's OK. You don't need to drive in together. This will either wake him up to his bad behavior and he will start being on time, or he can find his own way to work, alleviating everyone's stress. 

Natalie's Networking Tip of the Week: Only exchange personal information/business cards if you have made a meaningful connection. This cuts down on the number of superfluous cards you leave with (wondering who those people are) and instead helps you focus on the quality of engagements instead of the quantity. Write a little note on the back of cards about what you connected on and what areas you can help each other in. This will increase your chances of forming solid and mutually beneficial relationships. 

Please send your relationship and lifestyle questions to nbencivenga@post-gazette.com or tweet them to @NBSeen. You can also send postal letters to Natalie Bencivenga, 358 North Shore Drive, Pittsburgh, PA 15212

(This column was originally published by the Pittsburgh Post-Gazette.)

DEAR NATALIE: My wife and I have been married for only a few months, and we never really talked much about finances. While we both work, I make a much larger income than she does. Well, we opened a joint account recently and I have noticed some pretty large bills coming into the house. I haven’t confronted her about them, yet, but I feel as though she thinks that since we are married, frivolous spending (like regular shopping sprees and outrageous lunch bills with friends) is acceptable. I want her to have fun, but I also don’t want to go broke. How do I remedy this?

-- FREAKING OUT ABOUT FINANCES

DEAR FREAKING OUT ABOUT FINANCES: They say there are two things that can break up a happy marriage. Money and family. Don’t let this get the better of your relationship. Ask her to sit down and look at your joint account together. Instead of admonishing her, which may come off as condescending, work on a budget together. Maybe was just overly excited about seeing a few extra zeros in that bank account and lost her mind for a minute. While I don’t condone her irresponsible behavior, let’s give her the benefit of the doubt. If she wants to take her friends out for a fancy lunch or splurge on a new purse, that’s great, but she should either use her own money for that indulgence or work on a budget with you so that she can have a fun day out once in a while or treat herself to something without it wrecking your household budget. If she is just someone that isn’t good with money, then it gets a little trickier. There may be some deeper conversations that need to be had about savings, wanting to build a life together and recognizing that you are both in this together. Another way to deal with this would be to open a “fun money” account that you both can deposit a smaller amount in each month to be used for the occasional splurge, but when the money runs out each month, then it runs out. I’m always amazed at how little we teach kids about finances in school, considering these life skills carry (or don’t carry) with us throughout our adulthood. But the most important thing, no matter how awkward, is to keep an open dialogue about money because if you don’t communicate about these things, you could end up losing a lot more than just cash. You could lose your relationship, too.

DEAR NATALIE: My youngest sister is making a really big mistake. She is only 19 and her boyfriend is 21. He is in the military and about to leave for at least a year overseas. Of course, he had to propose. They have only been dating since January and I have only met the guy once. She is over-the-moon about this situation, but my family is not happy about it at all. They told her that they would only pay for the wedding after she graduates college. I am angry that she is doing this, but if I tell her how I feel, she is going to get mad and do something crazy (like elope). And, the other day she asked me to be a bridesmaid. How can I agree to this? She is too young! -- MARRIAGE CAN WAIT

DEAR MARRIAGE CAN WAIT: Aw, young love. I think we’ve all been there in one way or another. Maybe we didn’t take it as far as getting hitched to someone that was about to leave us, but I think if you close your eyes and look back at your life, there might be one time where you could feel the butterflies in your stomach from falling hard for someone. And now that her butterfly-inducing partner is leaving town, it doesn’t surprise me that they want to seal this deal. Is it the best idea? Oh, heck no. It’s a terrible idea. Most likely things will fall apart on their own. Long distance relationships are difficult enough when you are just in separate cities, not to mention in different time zones and long plane rides away. But I can guarantee, the more you tell her not the do this, the more likely she will go through with it. It’s like the Romeo and Juliet effect. But without the really depressing ending. Instead, play it cool. Say that “of course you would love to be a bridesmaid, but if you want to have a dream wedding, that takes time to plan.” Then offer to plan with her over the next year. This will give her time to let everything sink in. By next spring, the fires may have cooled and she may reconsider this relationship on her own. But if she doesn’t and they are still madly in love, then get behind her decision and support her. This is her life, after all, and she has to make her own choices.

Natalie's Networking Tip of the Week: Follow through is the most important part of networking. If you get business cards from new contacts and don’t reach out to the ones that you connected the best with, then what was the point? Don’t let the moment pass you by, make sure you reach out in a timely manner to show that you are serious about building a network.

Please send your questions to Natalie Bencivenga to her email, nbencivenga@post-gazette.com; or through postal mail to Natalie Bencivenga, 358 North Shore Dr., Pittsburgh, PA 15212.

(This column was originally published by the Pittsburgh Post-Gazette.)

DEAR NATALIE: I'm having a hard time letting go of my daughter. She is in her early 20s, a very good kid, but I really don't like her boyfriend. We are an affluent family, and her boyfriend (they met at the university they were attending) takes advantage of her. I don't like that he stays overnight in the apartment that I bought her. I don't like that he doesn't really have much direction or a clear idea of what he will do for a career. I have gotten into discussions about this with my wife, who basically told me to stay out of it. But I think my daughter should be looking for a husband who can take care of her, keep her in the lifestyle she is used to and not be a leech. My wife says she has to figure this out on her own. Who's right? If I tell her he can't come to the apartment, my wife is worried that will drive a wedge between us. I love her, but I'm not happy with the choices she is making in terms of dating. Any advice? -- Mad Dad

DEAR MAD DAD: Growing up is hard to do -- especially for parents. While I understand that your intentions are well meaning, your daughter is not property. You chose to buy her an apartment, which was incredibly generous of you, but that doesn't give you the right to dictate her life from here on out. The idea that you want her to find a man who will take care of her is antiquated. Instead, why not encourage her to travel, help foster her independence, help her to take on new opportunities in her area of interests as opposed to encouraging her to husband hunt? Most likely this relationship is her first serious one, and the more you push her to dump him, the more she will cling to him. You won't win this one, dad. So, follow your wife's advice and back off. Most likely, she will figure things out on her own (because you raised her to have a mind of her own) and will be dating someone else that you won't like before you know it! 

Please send your relationship and lifestyle questions to nbencivenga@post-gazette.com or tweet them to @NBSeen. You can also send postal letters to Natalie Bencivenga, 358 North Shore Drive, Pittsburgh, PA 15212

(This column was originally published by the Pittsburgh Post-Gazette.)