DEAR NATALIE: As a millennial, I feel informed about the relationship between what we eat and the impact on all areas of health (mental and physical). My parents are skeptics. They recently began facing challenges with issues that are quite crippling. We live in different cities, so my support is consistent yet remote. I encourage meditation, elimination of processed foods and exercise. But, they want a magic pill and think my ideas are "too New Age" to be effective. How can we make our parents understand modern recommendations? -- You Are What You Eat

DEAR YOU ARE WHAT YOU EAT: We can never persuade anyone to do anything that he or she is not ready or willing to do. The best way to highlight the benefits of a healthy lifestyle is to embody them. Be the light for your parents to follow. Instead of preaching, just lead quietly by example. You looking and feeling your best may encourage your parents to come to you with questions on their own. Because they don't see you every day, you can have even more of an impact when they do see you looking fit and healthy. The only way to win them over is to be positive, be an example and showcase that eating healthy and exercising as a family can be fun! Maybe when you see them next, take them to a healthy trendy restaurant, enjoy a fun physical activity together or even try and get them out of their comfort zone with a cooking class. Who knows? With a little love and luck, you may indeed change their hearts and minds about feeling great - no magic pill needed!

DEAR NATALIE: I'm majoring in marketing/communications, but I really love to write. I am worried that I won't be happy working in that field. What do you recommend that I do? I'm 21 and feeling like things aren't moving fast enough. -- Not Fulfilled

DEAR NOT FULFILLED: There is nothing stopping you from working in marketing and taking on freelance writing work from time to time to see if it is something that you love to do. Work on your own passion projects - a blog, poetry, your novel, whatever it is - while seeking writing jobs on the side. You can't just have one thing going if you want to be successful or fulfilled, so don't be afraid to spread your wings and fly to new creative heights. Never shut the door on yourself. Even if you hear the word "no," and you will from time to time, take it as "not right now, try again later," and then keep trying. Push on, push forward and create a life for yourself that includes your passions.

Natalie's Networking Tip of the Week: Plan in the moment. If someone says to you, "Yes, let's meet for coffee," don't hesitate. Pull out your planner or your phone and set a time and date right then and there. This is a very effective way to get the meeting you want on the books without wasting time emailing back and forth.

Please send your relationship and lifestyle questions to nbencivenga@post-gazette.com or tweet them to @NBSeen. You can also send postal letters to Natalie Bencivenga, 358 North Shore Drive, Pittsburgh, PA 15212

(This column was originally published by the Pittsburgh Post-Gazette.)

DEAR NATALIE: I'm in my early 30s, have a great job, and I recently got married. Everything is going well for me, but I haven't gotten the "baby bug" like a lot of my friends have. People keep bothering me about when my husband and I are getting pregnant. Is there a polite way to shut down this conversation without coming off as bitter or annoyed? -- No Bugs Allowed

DEAR NO BUGS ALLOWED: What is it about turning 30 (or being a woman for that matter) that makes everyone feel as though they can inquire as to the state of your ovaries? Having or not having a baby is really no one's business but your own, but in our voyeuristic society, it can be hard to keep anything private. The best thing to do in these situations is to deflect. If someone asks you, "So when are you going to start having babies?" try to change the subject: "Babies? I'm still working on keeping houseplants alive," and then laugh before quickly asking them an unrelated question to move the conversation in a different direction. Most of the time, people are asking these questions out of habit. In any case, it's your body, your choice, so don't let anyone guilt you into making decisions before you're ready. 

DEAR NATALIE: I'm a city dweller and my love is a suburbanite with three kids. How can we make a life together without either of us giving up too much? -- WILTINGSUBURBIA

DEAR WILTINGSUBURBIA: Long-distance romance can be quite a challenge (even if the distance is just through the dreaded Squirrel Hill tunnel), but compromise is key. Because your partner has children ... let me guess ... you are the one who travels, right? If you don't speak up you may end up with the terrible (and often irreversible) condition known as resentococcus. The best cure? Let your partner know that while you are willing to travel one or two nights a week, he and his family will have to do the same. Be creative. Schedule events with the kids to check out the Carnegie Science Center and other places to enjoy city life together. See if your partner can book a sitter one weekend night for a romantic date. You both need the same vision of the future to go the distance. If your visions are not aligned, find that out now before you change your ZIP code. 

Natalie's Networking Tip of the Week: If you're nervous about networking, make a vow to get three business cards at every event you attend. This way, the seed has been planted: Within two hours of mingling you will walk away with a few solid contacts to follow up with in the days ahead. 

Please send your relationship and lifestyle questions to nbencivenga@post-gazette.com or tweet them to @NBSeen. You can also send postal letters to Natalie Bencivenga, 358 North Shore Drive, Pittsburgh, PA 15212

(This column was originally published by the Pittsburgh Post-Gazette.)

DEAR NATALIE: My fiance and I got into a big fight about Valentine’s Day approaching. I (made a joke) saying that after this Valentine’s Day, I wouldn’t have to make much of an effort to date her once we were married or do anything romantic. She got really upset and now is having second thoughts about marrying me. Our wedding is this fall. Isn’t it a little silly to celebrate something like this once you’ve already tied the knot? At what point can we honestly stop dating and just settle into a married life? -- RIDICULOUS ROMANCE

DEAR RIDICULOUS ROMANCE: I’m going to assume you have your holidays confused and you are sending me this letter as a April Fools’ joke because no man that wants to stay married thinks that he can stop “dating” his wife and everything still come up roses. But my question for you is why do you want to stop dating in the first place? Dating is fun. It’s nice to go to a restaurant and talk over candlelight. It’s nice to go to a museum in the middle of the day, or a sporting event on the weekend together. It’s fun to catch a movie after happy hour and have a laugh together. Pull yourself together and recognize that dating your soon-to-be wife is one of best things you can do for your relationship and for your own mental health. Stop being so lazy and get in the mood for love. And if you aren’t, why the heck are you marrying her in the first place?

DEAR NATALIE: My friend is a really sweet woman, attractive and easy to be around. She is 25 years old and literally hasn’t been kissed up until recently. She claims she has focused all of her energy and time into school and work over the years, and didn’t have a burning desire to meet men or to date. Well, all of that changed recently when she actually met a man that she liked. They went out on a few dates and finally, she got that very first kiss. But it wasn’t good. In fact, the guy remarked to her that he hadn’t realized that literally she had never been kissed. I guess he thought she was exaggerating. Well, this has made her feel incredibly insecure. He never texted her back (this happened a month or so ago) and now she is convinced that she’ll never be kissed again. She’s been really depressed. I feel so badly for her. What can I do to help? -- KISS KISS BABY

DEAR KISS KISS BABY: Short of practicing with her and this turning into a “racy” late ‘90s rom-com starring Selma Blair and Sarah Michelle Gellar, I think the best thing you can do for her is just be her friend. Kissing, dating, intimacy...these topics aren’t easy for everyone to discuss or engage in. There could also be some underlying issues that you may not be aware of. There may be things she isn’t willing or ready to share that could have happened to her when she was younger, making her uneasy about men and dating. Or, this could be just a strange batch of events that took place, leading her to the point of never being kissed. But, the worst is over. She had her first kiss, and whether or not it was good or bad, it’s behind her  now. Even though she probably feels like a romantic pariah, I would remind her that it’s always awkward at first, but at least she doesn’t have to tell anyone moving forward that she’s never been kissed. That guy could have played into that idea, making it out to be worse than it really was. Don’t put any pressure on her, but gently encourage her to get back out there when she is ready. After all, practice makes perfect (and who doesn’t love to practice kissing?).

Natalie’s Networking Tip of the Week: Since Valentine’s Day is upon us, think about the people in your life who may not have as many visitors or relationships any more. Grandparents, great aunts and uncles or friends need a pick-me-up, too. Valentine’s Day is the perfect time to stop by with some flowers, a box of candy or even just a handwritten note and spend some time reaffirming your love and appreciation for them.

(This column was originally published by the Pittsburgh Post-Gazette.)