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by Abigail Van Buren

Friend in Recovery Backs Out of Plans to Meet

DEAR ABBY: A family friend is getting sober from drugs. We used to talk all the time about everything. I keep inviting them over to do something or hang out. They accept at first and then back out. This has been going on for months, and I'm getting tired of it. I'm trying to figure out if I should keep trying or just stop. Is it the recovery process or me? -- SOMEBODY WHO CARES IN UTAH

DEAR SOMEBODY: Not knowing you or your friend, it's hard to say. The next time you invite the person over and they back out, put the ball in their court by saying, "When you are up for company, give me a call. I miss you."

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