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by Abigail Van Buren

Identical Twins' Similarity Keeps Others Guessing

DEAR ABBY: I'm a woman with a situation I've never seen addressed in your column. Most adult identical twins do not go out of their way to look 100% alike. They'll style their hair differently, groom facial hair differently or dress differently.

I attend a church where two middle-aged women appear to have missed that memo. They wear the same hairstyle, the same glasses and nearly identical clothes. This makes me tend to avoid them because I'm embarrassed to admit I have no clue as to which one I'm talking to. Please give me your input. -- SEEING DOUBLE IN CALIFORNIA

DEAR SEEING DOUBLE: Rather than allow the inability to distinguish between the twins cause you to shun them, why not explain your problem? If you do, perhaps they can suggest a way you can identify them as individuals. As you interact with them, you may also notice characteristics that will help you tell who's who.

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