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by Abigail Van Buren

Single Mom Has Eyes on Single Dad

DEAR ABBY: I want to know if I should ask my neighbor out. I'm a female, and I don't want to come across as aggressive. I'm also a Christian who was taught that a woman should never ask a guy out. Could I ask him out to hang out -- not necessarily for a date?

I'm a single parent of a 14-year-old. This neighbor is cute and single and has two kids. I don't know him well. I've made many mistakes with men in the past, which is why I'm cautious. What's your advice? -- CAREFUL IN WYOMING

DEAR CAREFUL: Many men would be very happy to be asked out. Because you haven't had the opportunity to get to know this man, it may be time to create one. Consider hosting a friendly get-together for some of your neighbors and invite him and his children to participate. You didn't mention how old his children are, but if they hit it off with yours, so much the better. It's a friendly gesture that shouldn't be considered aggressive.

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