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by Abigail Van Buren

Stick-in-the-Mud Husband Is a Weekend Party Pooper

DEAR ABBY: I have been married for seven years. The last time my husband and I have been out of the house together was last summer. No movies, dinners, festivals, etc. I finally gave up suggesting things to do.

My husband says I'm the one who feels the need to go out once a week or take an annual vacation. It hurts knowing he goes out to eat with his buddies on his lunch breaks at work. I have said as much, but we still don't go anywhere on the weekends, and he still goes out to eat with his friends. What do you make of this? -- PRISONER IN OHIO

DEAR PRISONER: It appears you married a man who is selfish and self-centered. He has a social life -- his daily lunches with his buddies. Was he always like this?

You should enjoy dinners out and movies, too, but you may have to do those things with friends instead of your homebody spouse. If you have a job and income of your own, do not sit at home feeling deprived. If you don't have a job, it's time to find one. When you do, it will help you feel better about yourself and less isolated.

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