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by Abigail Van Buren

Officiant at Friends' Weddings Wonders About Giving a Gift, Too

DEAR ABBY: I am a funeral director by trade, but a couple of years ago one of my good friends asked me to officiate at his wedding. I was happy to do it, and I have since been asked by several other friends to perform their wedding ceremonies, too. I did three last year and have two scheduled for this year.

I am always happy to help, and I don't charge an honorarium. My question is: Am I required to give the couple a gift? I'd like to do what is appropriate. -- MARRYING & BURYING IN CALIFORNIA

DEAR M&B: No rule of etiquette requires you to give the couple a gift in addition to the services you are performing for free. If you would like to give them something in addition, by all means do, but it shouldn't be expected.

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