Join the debate. Vote Now on the Dear Abby Poll of the week.

by Abigail Van Buren

Old Flame's Rekindled Friendship Adds Tension to Family Functions

DEAR ABBY: Prior to meeting me, my husband was in a long-term relationship with a woman, "Karen," who was also a close friend of his sisters. Their relationship and the friendships ended due to Karen's behavior. Years passed, and then my husband met me.

Now, 10 years later, the sisters have decided to befriend Karen again. This would normally not be an issue, but Karen is invited to all family parties and weddings. It is very uncomfortable for my husband and me, as we feel we don't have the option to skip these events. I have tried to quietly object, but I'm being painted as "immature." Please help. -- UNCOMFORTABLE IN ILLINOIS

DEAR UNCOMFORTABLE: If you and your husband prefer not to socialize regularly with Karen, you certainly don't have to. However, your discomfort with her does not entitle you to insist your sisters-in-law exclude her from all of their parties. Attend the ones you must, make the best of them, and send your regrets for the rest.

Read more in: Family & Parenting | Friends & Neighbors