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by Abigail Van Buren

Boyfriend's Mom's Disapproval Looms Over Couple's Future

DEAR ABBY: Some good friends of mine were unable to have kids because of a medical issue. They recently adopted a preteen daughter, and the adoption became final a few months ago.

They are now having an "adoption party" where everyone can come and hang out and just have a good time. What is the etiquette for such a celebration? It's being held at a park where there is lots to do. Should I bring a card, a gift for the child, something for the parents or nothing? -- CONFUSED IN ARIZONA

DEAR CONFUSED: What a wonderful occasion to celebrate! It would be thoughtful, generous and welcoming if you brought along a gift for the girl, and I'm sure it would be appreciated not only by their daughter but also by the new parents.