DEAR ABBY: My fiance and I have been planning our wedding for two years. Both of us are working our butts off at two jobs to pay for all the elaborate details. It will, after all, be the most beautiful day of my life.
My fiance's sister just got engaged and I'm happy for her. But now she's talking about having her wedding "around the same time as ours" to make it convenient for our distant relatives. My concern is that they're going to "steal our moment."
I feel very hurt, but I'm not sure how to approach her because I don't want to cause conflict. It would make so much more sense for them to be married the following year. On the other hand, it's their prerogative to do it whenever they want. Am I being unreasonable? -- UNREASONABLE IN NEW HAMPSHIRE
DEAR UNREASONABLE: Every bride -- or almost every bride -- fantasizes that her wedding day will be the most beautiful day of her life. Whether or not your fiance's sister has her wedding around that time will not detract from yours in the slightest -- and it shouldn't be a contest anyway.
Frankly, the idea of sparing the relatives the expense of traveling to a second wedding makes sense. However, if you cannot accept this, then perhaps you should consider postponing your wedding for another year. Look at the bright side: If you do, you will have 12 months of extra income, and your wedding can be even more elaborate.