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by Abigail Van Buren

Distant Husband Gives No Support to Pregnant Wife

DEAR ABBY: I'm a few months pregnant and married to a man I love with all my heart. We have a young son together. For the last couple of months, I have had severe morning sickness, and my husband seems to resent me for it. He complains that I "don't do anything anymore," but I have been so ill that some days it's all I can do to get to work in the morning. I try to help out as much as I can, but it doesn't seem to be enough.

Lately he has shown no interest in me or the pregnancy. He won't go with me to doctors' appointments, no longer asks me about them, and refuses even to discuss possible names for our new baby. I have been to the emergency room twice -- once for dehydration and another time for a car accident. He showed up only after I begged him to come because I was scared. When my mom showed up, he couldn't get out of there fast enough.

He has been very secretive with his phone lately and has been working longer and later hours than usual. I don't know what to do. I'm scared that he doesn't want me anymore. Am I being a hormonal, paranoid wreck, or is something bad going on here? -- EMOTIONAL MESS IN OHIO

DEAR EMOTIONAL MESS: You need to confront your husband with that question. His behavior is the opposite of supportive. Whether it is because he is immature or because he is seeing someone else is anybody's guess. But a change of behavior this drastic on so many levels is certainly cause for concern -- and pretending you don't notice won't fix whatever is going on.

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