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by Abigail Van Buren

Pessimist's Sour Attitude May Be Sign Of Depression

DEAR ABBY: My husband is a pessimist. He has hated every job he has had during our 11-year marriage. When something happens, even if it's something minor, he'll say something sarcastic like, "This day just keeps getting better!" He complains that we will never have anything nice or never have a new car. When he feels bad, he refuses to go to the doctor because he says it will cost too much, even though we have insurance that will cover part of it.

He has been this way for the last six or seven years. I try to have a positive attitude and look forward to things getting better. I have had about all I can stand of his down attitude, and I'm about ready to see a lawyer.

By the way, it has been years since we have been intimate, and there is no affection or caring anymore -- just complaints about everything. What do you think I should do? -- TIRED OF MR. DOWN

DEAR TIRED: I think you should tell your husband that you love him and, for the reasons you told me, you think he may be suffering from long-term depression. Explain that there is help for depression, and urge him to talk to his physician about it. And if he refuses, THEN you should talk to a lawyer.

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