DEAR ABBY: My folks are in their mid-70s and have health problems. My oldest niece, "Riley," will graduate from high school next spring and is considering going to a college near them. My parents recently told me that my brother is suggesting Riley move in with them.
The girl has some behavioral issues and is in counseling. She's not an easy, happy or normal kid. My parents are extremely uncomfortable with the idea, but have not said anything to my brother. I think they are afraid of a fight or causing hurt feelings. He is in denial about his daughter's problems.
I'm concerned about my parents. At their age, I don't think it's fair to expect them to have another teenager in their home, much less one with issues. Is it my place to say something, and if so, what do I say? -- LOOKING OUT FOR MOM AND DAD
DEAR LOOKING OUT: You should definitely say something, but not to your brother. Talk with your parents. Remind them that if they're not OK with the arrangement your brother has proposed, it's their responsibility to make plain that because of their ages and their health problems they'll be unable to accommodate his request. Because it's the truth, it shouldn't cause an argument or hurt feelings. Also, your brother will have plenty of advance notice that other living arrangements will have to be made for Riley.