DEAR ABBY: What is a polite way to say: "My husband is not a bum; he's a hardworking, stay-at-home dad until he can find a job that offers not only benefits, but also enough extra money to afford child care, and it's none of your business"? -- I BRING IN THE DOUGH, HE BAKES
DEAR BAKER'S WIFE: Don't get angry. Tell the person, "My husband is a very hard worker. His job took a vacation."