DEAR ABBY: A group of about a dozen friends are planning a Caribbean cruise. My boyfriend, "Isaac," and I have been invited to join them. I love to travel. I don't get to go on trips very often and have never been on a cruise or to the Caribbean, so I'm excited.
Isaac, on the other hand, doesn't care much for travel and doesn't enjoy the ocean. He also doesn't like my friend or her husband. They are the ones who are coordinating the trip and who invited us.
Isaac rarely socializes with anyone who isn't in his circle of friends. He doesn't want to go and thinks I shouldn't go, either. Isn't it unfair of him to tell me I can't go? Would it be wrong of me to go without him? He promises that if I don't go, the two of us will go together next year. (I don't believe him.) -- LANDLOCKED IN ARIZONA
DEAR LANDLOCKED: If you don't believe Isaac when he tells you he'll do something, you must have good reason for it.
Yes, it is unfair of him to tell you that you can't take the cruise with your friends. It is also controlling. If you think you would have a good time without him, you should go. It's not like you'll be leaving for a month. He can manage without you for a few days. Instead of trying to discourage you, he should wish you "bon voyage" -- but the odds for that aren't high, so don't expect it.