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by Abigail Van Buren

Divorcing Wife Wants Others to Know She Isn't to Blame

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have dinner with friends a couple of times a month. The wife likes to kiss and hug me. She even patted me on the behind once. This makes me very uncomfortable.

I enjoy being affectionate with my children, grandchildren and my husband, but I do not like being touched by women. What should I do about this? -- HANDS OFF IN HOLLISTER, CALIF.

DEAR HANDS OFF: For heaven's sake, speak up and tell the woman that you are uncomfortable about being touched by other women. That way she'll know it isn't personal. I'm sure she will respect your boundaries once you explain them to her.