DEAR ABBY: I volunteer with a support group and have fallen for one of the members. I'm certain she doesn't know my feelings. I have respected her right to pursue the support she sought without the complication of romance.
I have been resigned to the fact that an extraordinary woman has simply crossed my path under the wrong circumstances. However, a trusted friend has suggested that special people come only rarely into our lives and that I should consider leaving my role as facilitator to pursue her. I'm now struggling over what to do. I find great satisfaction in my volunteer work, but am drawn to this woman. -- TORN BETWEEN TWO DESIRES
DEAR TORN: If you approach the woman while she's a member of your group, it could be considered a breach of ethics. Therefore it might be better if you wait until she is strong enough to leave the group before you approach her for a personal relationship.