DEAR ABBY: If family members provide significant services free for a wedding -- officiate, conduct pre-marriage counseling, perform all the musical accompaniment for a long ceremony -- is a wedding gift also expected to be given? This has been a family sore spot. Please help. -- WEDDINGS ARE OUR BUSINESS
DEAR W.A.O.B.: If family members are providing "significant services" for free, that is the gift, and it is presumptuous for anyone to expect more.