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by Abigail Van Buren

Wife's Past Experience Looms Large in Present Marriage

DEAR ABBY: I have been invited to a wedding. The invitation included explicit instructions on what is appropriate attire. Ladies are "not to wear anything tight or revealing, or that doesn't cover chest, back, knees and shoulders." One of my friends said she wouldn't go to such a wedding. Another said, "I don't own anything that meets their dress code."

We are all three mature women who have always dressed conservatively. What's your take on this? Am I right to feel insulted? -- CLOTHING-CHALLENGED IN OREGON

DEAR CLOTHING-CHALLENGED: Not necessarily. It's possible that the house of worship where the wedding will be held -- as well as the families involved -- may be conservative or orthodox, which is why the women are being asked to cover themselves. If you feel the dress code is too much of an imposition, you should politely decline the invitation.