DEAR ABBY: I am a college student and four months pregnant. This is my first pregnancy and I'm having a baby shower. I recently heard that sometimes males are invited to the shower. I would like to know if this is appropriate and if I can do it. My mother thinks it's tacky, but this is 2010! Is it acceptable? -- JESSICA IN CONNECTICUT
DEAR JESSICA: Yes, it is acceptable. Allow me to quote from Emily Post's Etiquette, 17th Edition: "It is not uncommon for men to be included on baby shower guest lists these days -- and some lucky guys become shower honorees. (An Emily Post Institute survey showed that over a third of respondents had attended showers where the guest list was mixed.)"