DEAR ABBY: I am a 38-year-old woman with an outgoing personality. However, when I first meet a man, I move slowly.
If I agree to a date, I meet him at a public place. After a few dates, I'll share my e-mail address so we can communicate more easily. And, Abby, that's when the trouble starts.
Over the past few years, several men have e-mailed me nude photos of themselves after I gave them my contact information. I'm not a prude, but I feel it was disrespectful. I broke up with each of them and deleted their photos from my computer.
Please lend me some advice and insight here. Until then, I'm considering remaining single forever. -- SEEN IT ALL IN SAN ANTONIO
DEAR SEEN IT ALL: I'm surprised you didn't sign yourself "Seen Too Much." Where are you meeting these creepy individuals? Before the Internet, they used to be called "flashers."
Because this has happened to you more than once in the past few years, it's time to ask yourself if somehow you may have given the impression that you would be receptive to this kind of contact. In other words, think about the signals you may be sending after a few dates.
DEAR ABBY: With the holidays coming, I know I'll be spending time with my boyfriend's family. Every time I see his father (who is a poor excuse for a dad) he asks when I'm going to give him grandbabies.
This has gone on for five years. I am not even married to his son, and I don't plan on having any children. He makes me feel like I don't deserve his son if I don't have children. (My boyfriend already has a son from a previous relationship.) I have tried to answer him nicely. I have even tried to be rude, but he just doesn't get it!
I would like to know how to respond to him. I certainly do not want it to affect his family's Christmas, but I feel I should stick up for myself. Please help. -- WANTS NO BABIES IN NEW YORK
DEAR WANTS NO BABIES: Smile and tell the nervy gentleman he can expect you to give him grandbabies after you start feeling maternal, and when you begin to feel maternal he'll be the first to know. Do not pick a fight with him, and don't spend much time with him. Apparently, your boyfriend got his brains from his mother.
And now, Dear Readers, I am pleased to offer the traditional Thanksgiving Prayer that was penned by my dear mother, Pauline Phillips. No Thanksgiving would be complete for me without it.
Oh, Heavenly Father,
We thank Thee for food and remember the hungry.
We thank Thee for health and remember the sick.
We thank Thee for freedom and remember the enslaved.
May these remembrances stir us to service,
That Thy gifts to us may be used for others. Amen.
Have a safe and happy Thanksgiving, everyone! -- LOVE, ABBY
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