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by Abigail Van Buren

Single Woman Has a Knack for Dating E Mail Exhibitionists

DEAR ABBY: I am a 38-year-old woman with an outgoing personality. However, when I first meet a man, I move slowly.

If I agree to a date, I meet him at a public place. After a few dates, I'll share my e-mail address so we can communicate more easily. And, Abby, that's when the trouble starts.

Over the past few years, several men have e-mailed me nude photos of themselves after I gave them my contact information. I'm not a prude, but I feel it was disrespectful. I broke up with each of them and deleted their photos from my computer.

Please lend me some advice and insight here. Until then, I'm considering remaining single forever. -- SEEN IT ALL IN SAN ANTONIO

DEAR SEEN IT ALL: I'm surprised you didn't sign yourself "Seen Too Much." Where are you meeting these creepy individuals? Before the Internet, they used to be called "flashers."

Because this has happened to you more than once in the past few years, it's time to ask yourself if somehow you may have given the impression that you would be receptive to this kind of contact. In other words, think about the signals you may be sending after a few dates.